Nobody said it would be easy. It’s actually pretty normal for married couples to have arguments from time to time. In fact, it turns out that most couples fight about the same things. The top 4 topics of arguments among couples are:
1. Money
2. Sex
3. Housework
4. Kids
The top causes of arguments? High levels of stress and poor communication.
If you feel hopeless about the amount of arguments in your relationship, it will be encouraging to know that there are a few tips you can try to change things. You can start by making sure you’re not stressed when you choose to discuss something critical with your partner, and make sure it’s a good time to talk for the both of you. Take off the gloves, you don’t have to win every argument, so choose your battles carefully. And finally, use “I” statements, meaning talk about your feelings instead of your perceived intentions by your partner. For example: “I felt disrespected when you criticized me in front of your friends” instead of “You’re such a jerk for always picking on me in front of other people”.
So, what are you fighting about and what can you do to increase the peace?
Happy Monday,
Rachel
1. Money
2. Sex
3. Housework
4. Kids
The top causes of arguments? High levels of stress and poor communication.
If you feel hopeless about the amount of arguments in your relationship, it will be encouraging to know that there are a few tips you can try to change things. You can start by making sure you’re not stressed when you choose to discuss something critical with your partner, and make sure it’s a good time to talk for the both of you. Take off the gloves, you don’t have to win every argument, so choose your battles carefully. And finally, use “I” statements, meaning talk about your feelings instead of your perceived intentions by your partner. For example: “I felt disrespected when you criticized me in front of your friends” instead of “You’re such a jerk for always picking on me in front of other people”.
So, what are you fighting about and what can you do to increase the peace?
Happy Monday,
Rachel