Holding on to a grudge is one of the most psychologically damaging practices one can engage in. Grudges are kept on the premise of the other person being punished or hurt in some way. In reality, the person holding the grudge hurts themselves more than anyone else.
If you’ve been holding onto a grudge, you’ve probably been telling yourself a story of what should have been, replaying the incident that hurt you. Maybe you get upset each time the memory of the person or situation is triggered. Making peace with this person, and yourself, could be the difference between peace and turmoil.
Forgiveness shall set you free. Follow these three steps and let go of the grudge that stands between you and inner peace.
1. Spend some time thinking about why you hold on to the pain, and the negative effects it has on you.
2. Let go of the narrative that it could have been any different. Whatever happened, happened. You can’t change the past, so don’t imagine it to be any different.
3. Release it all. Let go of the pain, let go of any ill will towards anyone, let yourself be at peace. You don’t have to be the one to dish out punishment, so make peace with the idea that you do not need revenge.
Spend some time meditating on these steps, and with the idea that you don’t have to hold on a grudge forever. You can forgive without forgetting or befriending the person who hurt you. All you need is some patience and practice.
Blessings,
Rachel
If you’ve been holding onto a grudge, you’ve probably been telling yourself a story of what should have been, replaying the incident that hurt you. Maybe you get upset each time the memory of the person or situation is triggered. Making peace with this person, and yourself, could be the difference between peace and turmoil.
Forgiveness shall set you free. Follow these three steps and let go of the grudge that stands between you and inner peace.
1. Spend some time thinking about why you hold on to the pain, and the negative effects it has on you.
2. Let go of the narrative that it could have been any different. Whatever happened, happened. You can’t change the past, so don’t imagine it to be any different.
3. Release it all. Let go of the pain, let go of any ill will towards anyone, let yourself be at peace. You don’t have to be the one to dish out punishment, so make peace with the idea that you do not need revenge.
Spend some time meditating on these steps, and with the idea that you don’t have to hold on a grudge forever. You can forgive without forgetting or befriending the person who hurt you. All you need is some patience and practice.
Blessings,
Rachel